A little pondering done while reading a horror story:
And this is when Palahniuk states, “In Hell, it is our attachments to a fixed identity that torture us.” Believing to be a good wife or a compassionate person, a loving parent or a caring sibling, something these labels have an expectation tagged on to them. When someone gets a divorce, have you heard, “I cannot believe how he can do this to me! I was a good wife!” or if one fails to get that promotion, one thinks, “But I was such a hard worker! I stayed back every day! I made coffee for my boss!” These are expectations attached to those identities.